Last Of a Dying Breed

The First Dance

2009-01-27T21:19:00.003-05:00

I know that I had a lot of mixed comments on my last post on my view and opinion on interracial relationships. Sorry guys, I'm just a HUGE advocate for Black Love!
As I was watching the "First Dance" on YouTube I could not help but to think "How could you not want 'black love'?" I mean, you can just see the genuine love and emotions the two have for each other! Maybe I'm just being a sap or perhaps their marriage is the biggest sham on Earth, but I love them!
Check out the video!

Prayer of the Week

2009-01-26T00:30:00.001-05:00

Dear Heavenly Father, You are such an awesome God! Lord, help me to remember all the things You have done for me in the past, when I am tempted to doubt in my present difficult situation. Help me to daily walk in faith and to always trust You, and not lean unto my own understanding. Deliver me from pride and fear, as these twin evils are aimed at destroying my faith. Give me a love for reading the Bible and open my understanding to the things You desire to reveal to me in Your Word; and then, Lord, give me the grace to obey all that You speak to me. In Jesus name, I pray. Amen.

Source: www.bible.com

What's Wrong With Me?

2009-01-20T23:00:00.006-05:00

I LOVE black men and I want nothing more than to be married to a beautiful, educated, hard working black man and have beautiful chocolate children running around.

Being an educated, attractive, and classy black woman, I cannot help but to feel "some sort of way" when I see a good looking black man with a white woman. I would be lying if I said that "I'm no racist" because clearly this comment is a form of prejudice.

It especially hurts my feelings when I see these black men who seem to possess at least the physical qualities that I desire in a black man. It bothers men even more when I see these couples in the mall or Publix, and when I walk past these men tend to turn their heads in a way that makes me think yes, I'm with her and I know you're upset that I am with this woman. With all this, it makes me think What is wrong with me? Am I not what you want? Am I not the type that your mother wants you to bring home?

As a woman with high goals and standards, it is only natural for me to desire a man whom I can come home to and speak about my day to day struggles, about the racist e- mail I received about President Barack Obama that day, or to have a deep and analytical discussion on black history and issues that are plaguing our communities- A man who KNOWS exactly where it hurts and how it feels.

Of course, you can have these sort of discussions with anyone, but how can a man who grew up in middle America, a trust fund, and plays cricket, truly identify with someone who had to get bused out of her district to attend the "better school" in an effort to get a suitable public education and opportunities?

As I was reading an article in Essence magazine, it spoke about how black women need to stop focusing so much on these "brothers" and be a little more open- minded. After all.. black men are tending to be open- minded by dating outside of their race and black women are tending to hold on to the "good black man" syndrome.

However the facts stand, there are more educated black women then black men, and most black women desire a educated black man. But when we look at the ratio.. ladies it's just not enough of them for all of us.

Educated to me does not necessarily mean a FAMU or Harvard degree, but a man with passion, ambition, goals, and a desire to progress (all of this takes intelligence) NOT the goons who are in and out of jail with three and four baby mammas!

LET'S BE REAL! Do you think President Obama would have been received as well if Michelle was white? I'm willing to bet he would not!

I was at a seminar and an alarming statistic was brought up, 67% of black women will NEVER get married! Good, hard working, intelligent black women! So ladies, what do? Do we still hold on to this white picket dream? Or do we expand our boundaries?

I would prefer to hold on to that dream. I truly believe that God has the man for me aligned for me out there and he is Black ( I specially requested that from God...) But sometimes loneliness may get the best of us and a black man is not the only one who can remedy that family or be a good father and husband.

Yet and still... every Claire deserves a Cliff Huxtable... but maybe Claire needs to see what Mr. Rogers is talking about! LoL

Prayer of the Week

2009-01-20T13:25:00.001-05:00

Dear Father,
I am grateful that you have left us the Bible with all of its wisdom and knowledge so that we do not get lost in this life or overwhelmed by the problems that we face. I do thank you that for every problem we face, You will help me find the answer and overcome in the situation. Help me not only be able to overcome my problems, but also Lord, help me to maintain the proper heart attitude as I work on the situations in my life that need changing. I know that I must react to my problems with Your love and in a way that is pleasing to you. Give me the grace to do that, as in my own strength I am not able to approach many of my problems with a godly attitude. In Jesus name, Amen.

Source: www.bible.com

Long Hair Don't Care?!

2009-01-06T17:22:00.007-05:00

October 21, 2008 I cut my hair. Not just clipped it, but CHOPPED IT! I wanted to go for a more dramatic look. I was tired of the same 'ol wrapped hair. Granted I think its one of the classiest ( and healthiest) styles a AA woman can have, but I was in need of a dire change!

There are times when my new 'do is a little difficult to manage... You have to keep the back "taped up," the new growth is difficult to camouflage, and sometimes I just want a ponytail! Then again, when I wake up much maintenance isn't needed. I don't have to primp and curl- just unwrap and spike with my fingers and hit the door!

The best part of having this new look is the way it makes you feel! This is hilarious, but I really feel liberated! I was watching my FAV show "The Game" ( on the CW, Friday nights @ 8:30pm!) and this particular episode had an older lady ( maybe in her 60's) who was sick in the hospital. She made a comment to Melanie, her Resident Dr ( & she's one of the main characters) about her hair style. It was a cute bob- cute, but nothing special. The lady explains to Melanie that her hairstyle is "safe" that "tucking your hair behind your ears is safe. Your style signifies being in a very comfortable place. Its familiar to you- you know it looks okay. But baby, being comfortable and content isn't really living your life..."

I was thinking WOW! All of this over a hairstyle?! But as I started to meditate on this it was true for me. I have always admired and "wished" I had the nerve to chop off my hair. So here I was with this wrapped hair that I kept a certain length ( I personally don't like REALLY long hair.. ITS TOO HOT IN FLA!) It was easy to manage but it was just like everyone else.

Since I've cut my hair, I have gotten a lot more male attention. On more than a few occasions I have heard "You know, I usually prefer women with long hair, but that looks REALLY good on you!" I wasn't sure if I should be offended or not? My theory behind this is that my cut is dramatic so its something that people may notice first vs. having the usual wrap which is something that is common.

Fellas help me out with this! Will you not talk to a woman because she has a short cut, a low cut, or even a fade? Or is it really just " long hair" woman who spark your interest?

Ladies? What is (if any) holding you back from changing up your hair and removing yourself from being 'comfortable'?

Prayer of the Week

2009-01-06T17:01:00.003-05:00

I have always been a spiritual woman, but through some of the trying times I saw in '08, I decided that I need to further advance, nurture, and mature my relationship with God.
So.. I will be posting a 'Prayer of the Week!' Usually they will be posted on Sunday, but I've been going through a lot with FAMU right now! ;)

Dear Father in Heaven,
I come to You in the name of Jesus and I pray for parents and young people today in all walks of life who are struggling with the threat of unrighteous relationships. Help them to live a life that is pleasing to You. Deliver them from the fear of men and give them the grace to cut all ties with those that would lead them into wickedness. Fill them with Your Spirit so that they will have the holy boldness to take a stand for truth and righteousness. May we all treat the wicked that we encounter with compassion and kindness, yet be able to speak the truth in love, so as to help them, and not join them.
Bless the workers and evangelists You have sent to these cities. Provide for them and protect them as they work among the streets. Protect us all from evil and destruction. Help us to overcome evil with good, as You told us to do, and let us be that light that shines in the darkness. Amen.

Source: www.bible.com

Just for Kicks!

2008-12-31T01:08:00.007-05:00

I don't want my blog to turn into a male bashing site!
I posted this for kicks!
My roomies and I watch it when we need to LoL!

** VIEWER DISCRETION IS CERTAINLY ADVISED!**

"I'm 100% REAL Ngg!"

2008-12-31T00:49:00.008-05:00

The classic quote that I hear from a majority of guys.
Why is that? Everyone claims to be "real" "completely truthful" "100%" and the list goes on, but I can name about six guys right now who I think can live up to it.

Through an e-mail conversation with my friend Krystal we were sharing stories of how guys that we've dated/ talked to/ etc. have in some way lied or not have been truthful in some aspect or capacity.

As I was discussing this with my close guy friend, he brought up a question: "Is there such a thing as being too honest?"
In my opinion, NO! I personally would rather my feelings be hurt for a few days then being and feeling like a complete idiot because " I didn't read the signs."

Granted, its up to a person's discretion on how much you're willing to reveal about one's personal life, but there comes a level where a certain level of honesty needs to be discussed.

Fellas, I can assure you if you want a (and want to keep) a LOADB you'll have to "keep it real." If she asks you "Are you dating other people?" Don't say "No, but there's this chick trynna get at me..." and make it seem as though THAT CHICK is the one on you, when it's really the other way around. I could go on and on with examples!
A true LOADB will respect you soooo much more and will be able to trust you if you are honest from the beginning.

Do you think there is such a thing as too much honesty in a relationship? Whether exclusive, dating, talking, "fooling around," etc?

Goodbye T.O.N.Y.

2008-12-25T19:47:00.008-05:00

If you haven't heard Solange's CD Sol- Angel & The Hadley Street Dreams get a copy! It's such a new and refreshing sound from a lot of the garb that's out there!
Anywho.. there is a song on there that I just LOVE! Its titled T.O.N.Y. which stands for "The Other Night, Y?"

T.O.N.Y don't call no more
No not at all no more
Maybe there's something wrong with his phone
Or maybe it's morning and the thrill is gone
I'm not sure if I'm still respected
And I'm not in a rush to feel rejected
Not by T.O.N.Y

As I was pondering the lyrics to the song it made me think; everyone has had at least one T.ON.Y. in our lives. We've at least dated, talked to, saw, or even "messed around," with someone whom we basically look back at and think "why?!" The hook of the song goes on to say I could have been in love by now if it wasn't for T.ON.Y.
Which basically says that we've wasted our time and the one that we TRULY could have been with instead of T.O.N.Y.

Personally speaking, I've had my share of T.O.N.Y.'s but I always try to look at the situation and learn and grow from it! I saw all of that to say this, learn from the T.O.N.Y.'s in your life: look at it, learn from it, and laugh at it!

Check out the official video for T.O.N.Y. here:

MERRY CHRISTMAS from LOADB!

2008-12-24T23:09:00.002-05:00

MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM LOADB!

Although this is a time to enjoy gifts, PLEASE

remember the reason for the season!

God Bless!

"Last of a Dying Breed" My Definition

2008-12-24T21:52:00.002-05:00

Q:"Last of what breed?"

A: The breed of the "classic and CLASSY woman"

My name on Facebook has "lastofAdyingbreed" in the middle; I've had it there since my Freshmen year in college. Initially, I got the tag line from a Jeezy song; however as I am growing as a woman everyday, I'm learning that I am truly one of the last.

I was having a conversation with a good male friend of mine on the tag line and I decided I needed to tell the world once and for all!

Now, I'm not trying to toot my horn, but I have plenty of male friends who confide in me and I'm always AMAZED at the stories they tell me about these triflin women! I will not sit here and say that I'm perfect in any respect, but some things are hard to comprehend.

I think that a lot of women would call themselves a good woman but here is my definition of a LOADB:

God Fearing: A woman who not only claims she's a Christian, but tries hard everyday to better herself and grow as a woman and as a Christian and makes an effort to be the best person God will have her to be.
Intelligent: Intelligence is not just related to academics ( although highly important) but a woman who pays attention to issues and concerns impacting the community and the world. Someone who is cultured and willing to learn and try to live and think outside of "the box."
Down to earth: Trust me. I am 9.999/10 categorized as "stuck up" because of my appearance. Yet, I'm sooo chill and I love to be around people! Being down to earth is a characteristic because what's the point of having brains and beauty, but people don't want to be around you?
Set a standard for morals and values: My good friend brought this point, "I think people's morals and values differentiate, sometimes depending on the situation." This point is relative to the person, but if they are God Fearing then M&V's should align.
Independent: As many songs that are flying around about being "Miss Independent" I don't think I need to elaborate any further...
Looks: Ladies, the way you dress can say A LOT about you. I've found that a true LOADB has a certain swag and will carry herself with respect and dignity. Wearing a dress or skirt right below your tush is NOT it.
DON'T PLAY GAMES!: Now, my friends would say that I can be pretty tough on guys. I would disagree, I know what I want and what I won't put up with. To truly be a LOADB you must know yourself and have a clear understanding of what you would and would not put up with. I assure you a man will not want a woman who cannot or will not stand up for herself or is content.
KNOW YOURSELF: You can't be anyone's LOADB if you're not comfortable in the skin you're in. Truly take the time to understand who you are. Explore you relationship with God, your family, you're friends. Evaluate you're priorities and goals. Ladies, we need to learn how to be by ourselves! Heck! Take YOURSELF on a date! Take a painting class or write in a journal!

Although these characteristics may sound common, I can honestly say I have a HANDFUL of women who fit this mold. Note: handful. Granted plenty of these women are my friends, but I don't call many my friends. That's why its dying out! Not sure where they are all going.. but it's disappearing!

Even Andre 3000 agree with me when he says "Candy-coated unicorns are quite hard to find/ The classic lady, a rare breed indeed/ Is that make and model discontinued?" in his song Behold A Lady.

Your feelings on this?

Last Of a Dying Breed

The First Dance

Prayer of the Week

What's Wrong With Me?

Prayer of the Week

Long Hair Don't Care?!

Prayer of the Week

Just for Kicks!

"I'm 100% REAL N*gg*!"

Goodbye T.O.N.Y.

MERRY CHRISTMAS from LOADB!

"Last of a Dying Breed" My Definition

"I'm 100% REAL Ngg!"