The classic quote that I hear from a majority of guys.
Why is that? Everyone claims to be "real" "completely truthful" "100%" and the list goes on, but I can name about six guys right now who I think can live up to it.
Through an e-mail conversation with my friend Krystal we were sharing stories of how guys that we've dated/ talked to/ etc. have in some way lied or not have been truthful in some aspect or capacity.
As I was discussing this with my close guy friend, he brought up a question: "Is there such a thing as being too honest?"
In my opinion, NO! I personally would rather my feelings be hurt for a few days then being and feeling like a complete idiot because " I didn't read the signs."
Granted, its up to a person's discretion on how much you're willing to reveal about one's personal life, but there comes a level where a certain level of honesty needs to be discussed.
Why is that? Everyone claims to be "real" "completely truthful" "100%" and the list goes on, but I can name about six guys right now who I think can live up to it.
Through an e-mail conversation with my friend Krystal we were sharing stories of how guys that we've dated/ talked to/ etc. have in some way lied or not have been truthful in some aspect or capacity.
As I was discussing this with my close guy friend, he brought up a question: "Is there such a thing as being too honest?"
In my opinion, NO! I personally would rather my feelings be hurt for a few days then being and feeling like a complete idiot because " I didn't read the signs."
Granted, its up to a person's discretion on how much you're willing to reveal about one's personal life, but there comes a level where a certain level of honesty needs to be discussed.
Fellas, I can assure you if you want a (and want to keep) a LOADB you'll have to "keep it real." If she asks you "Are you dating other people?" Don't say "No, but there's this chick trynna get at me..." and make it seem as though THAT CHICK is the one on you, when it's really the other way around. I could go on and on with examples!
A true LOADB will respect you soooo much more and will be able to trust you if you are honest from the beginning.
Do you think there is such a thing as too much honesty in a relationship? Whether exclusive, dating, talking, "fooling around," etc?
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Personally, I think the answer to your question is no. It's better to be brutally honest, even if the truth is ugly. When one lies, one often has to weave an intricate and fragile web of lies just to keep the first one going. Each lie in the web is contingent on the success of the other lies for sustenance. If one is debunked, the whole web will ... Read Moreindubitably come crashing down. Lying habitually takes a lot of work, and I think I'm just to lazy for it. Transparency is the way to go. I can't cosign your blog completely, Rachel, because it has been my experience that women are often liars who have perfected the craft, and can lie gracefully with highly skilled execution. Given the rarity of the virtue, the task at hand is finding someone that gives you the security (prior false senses of the aforementioned notwithstanding) necessary for one to share one's transparency.
There's no such thing as too much honesty, but I think there is a such thing as telling too much about yourself too soon.
Well I read the blog, I can honestly say that there is no such thing as being "too honest".
All men are raised differently (especially men of color). However no matter where a man comes from he is always taught one thing.
He was told at a very young age that "All you have is your word".
Given this, a man's word must always be pure and must always ... Read Morebe true.
Boy's who master this lesson turn into men.
Boy's who never really get the hang of it remain as boys for the rest of their lives no matter how old they get.
Yes I do think there is a thing as being "too honest". Different levels of intimacy, gain different amounts of trust, thus require more honesty.
And in most instances it's not even dishonesty, just something that might have been left out.
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