Just for Kicks!

I don't want my blog to turn into a male bashing site!
I posted this for kicks!
My roomies and I watch it when we need to LoL!

** VIEWER DISCRETION IS CERTAINLY ADVISED!**

"I'm 100% REAL N*gg*!"

The classic quote that I hear from a majority of guys.
Why is that? Everyone claims to be "real" "completely truthful" "100%" and the list goes on, but I can name about six guys right now who I think can live up to it.

Through an e-mail conversation with my friend Krystal we were sharing stories of how guys that we've dated/ talked to/ etc. have in some way lied or not have been truthful in some aspect or capacity.

As I was discussing this with my close guy friend, he brought up a question: "Is there such a thing as being too honest?"
In my opinion, NO! I personally would rather my feelings be hurt for a few days then being and feeling like a complete idiot because " I didn't read the signs."

Granted, its up to a person's discretion on how much you're willing to reveal about one's personal life, but there comes a level where a certain level of honesty needs to be discussed.

Fellas, I can assure you if you want a (and want to keep) a LOADB you'll have to "keep it real." If she asks you "Are you dating other people?" Don't say "No, but there's this chick trynna get at me..." and make it seem as though THAT CHICK is the one on you, when it's really the other way around. I could go on and on with examples!
A true LOADB will respect you soooo much more and will be able to trust you if you are honest from the beginning.


Do you think there is such a thing as too much honesty in a relationship? Whether exclusive, dating, talking, "fooling around," etc?

Goodbye T.O.N.Y.

If you haven't heard Solange's CD Sol- Angel & The Hadley Street Dreams get a copy! It's such a new and refreshing sound from a lot of the garb that's out there!
Anywho.. there is a song on there that I just LOVE! Its titled T.O.N.Y. which stands for "The Other Night, Y?"

T.O.N.Y don't call no more
No not at all no more
Maybe there's something wrong with his phone
Or maybe it's morning and the thrill is gone
I'm not sure if I'm still respected
And I'm not in a rush to feel rejected
Not by T.O.N.Y

As I was pondering the lyrics to the song it made me think; everyone has had at least one T.ON.Y. in our lives. We've at least dated, talked to, saw, or even "messed around," with someone whom we basically look back at and think "why?!" The hook of the song goes on to say I could have been in love by now if it wasn't for T.ON.Y.
Which basically says that we've wasted our time and the one that we TRULY could have been with instead of T.O.N.Y.

Personally speaking, I've had my share of T.O.N.Y.'s but I always try to look at the situation and learn and grow from it! I saw all of that to say this, learn from the T.O.N.Y.'s in your life: look at it, learn from it, and laugh at it!

Check out the official video for T.O.N.Y. here:

MERRY CHRISTMAS from LOADB!

MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM LOADB!

Although this is a time to enjoy gifts, PLEASE

remember the reason for the season!

God Bless!

"Last of a Dying Breed" My Definition

Q:"Last of what breed?"

A: The breed of the "classic and CLASSY woman"

My name on Facebook has "lastofAdyingbreed" in the middle; I've had it there since my Freshmen year in college. Initially, I got the tag line from a Jeezy song; however as I am growing as a woman everyday, I'm learning that I am truly one of the last.

I was having a conversation with a good male friend of mine on the tag line and I decided I needed to tell the world once and for all!

Now, I'm not trying to toot my horn, but I have plenty of male friends who confide in me and I'm always AMAZED at the stories they tell me about these triflin women! I will not sit here and say that I'm perfect in any respect, but some things are hard to comprehend.

I think that a lot of women would call themselves a good woman but here is my definition of a LOADB:

1. God Fearing: A woman who not only claims she's a Christian, but tries hard everyday to better herself and grow as a woman and as a Christian and makes an effort to be the best person God will have her to be.
2. Intelligent: Intelligence is not just related to academics ( although highly important) but a woman who pays attention to issues and concerns impacting the community and the world. Someone who is cultured and willing to learn and try to live and think outside of "the box."
3. Down to earth: Trust me. I am 9.999/10 categorized as "stuck up" because of my appearance. Yet, I'm sooo chill and I love to be around people! Being down to earth is a characteristic because what's the point of having brains and beauty, but people don't want to be around you?
4. Set a standard for morals and values: My good friend brought this point, "I think people's morals and values differentiate, sometimes depending on the situation." This point is relative to the person, but if they are God Fearing then M&V's should align.
5. Independent: As many songs that are flying around about being "Miss Independent" I don't think I need to elaborate any further...
6. Looks: Ladies, the way you dress can say A LOT about you. I've found that a true LOADB has a certain swag and will carry herself with respect and dignity. Wearing a dress or skirt right below your tush is NOT it.
7. DON'T PLAY GAMES!: Now, my friends would say that I can be pretty tough on guys. I would disagree, I know what I want and what I won't put up with. To truly be a LOADB you must know yourself and have a clear understanding of what you would and would not put up with. I assure you a man will not want a woman who cannot or will not stand up for herself or is content.
8. KNOW YOURSELF: You can't be anyone's LOADB if you're not comfortable in the skin you're in. Truly take the time to understand who you are. Explore you relationship with God, your family, you're friends. Evaluate you're priorities and goals. Ladies, we need to learn how to be by ourselves! Heck! Take YOURSELF on a date! Take a painting class or write in a journal!

Although these characteristics may sound common, I can honestly say I have a HANDFUL of women who fit this mold. Note: handful. Granted plenty of these women are my friends, but I don't call many my friends. That's why its dying out! Not sure where they are all going.. but it's disappearing!

Even Andre 3000 agree with me when he says "Candy-coated unicorns are quite hard to find/ The classic lady, a rare breed indeed/ Is that make and model discontinued?" in his song Behold A Lady.

Your feelings on this?