I LOVE black men and I want nothing more than to be married to a beautiful, educated, hard working black man and have beautiful chocolate children running around.
Being an educated, attractive, and classy black woman, I cannot help but to feel "some sort of way" when I see a good looking black man with a white woman. I would be lying if I said that "I'm no racist" because clearly this comment is a form of prejudice.
It especially hurts my feelings when I see these black men who seem to possess at least the physical qualities that I desire in a black man. It bothers men even more when I see these couples in the mall or Publix, and when I walk past these men tend to turn their heads in a way that makes me think yes, I'm with her and I know you're upset that I am with this woman. With all this, it makes me think What is wrong with me? Am I not what you want? Am I not the type that your mother wants you to bring home?
As a woman with high goals and standards, it is only natural for me to desire a man whom I can come home to and speak about my day to day struggles, about the racist e- mail I received about President Barack Obama that day, or to have a deep and analytical discussion on black history and issues that are plaguing our communities- A man who KNOWS exactly where it hurts and how it feels.
Of course, you can have these sort of discussions with anyone, but how can a man who grew up in middle America, a trust fund, and plays cricket, truly identify with someone who had to get bused out of her district to attend the "better school" in an effort to get a suitable public education and opportunities?
As I was reading an article in Essence magazine, it spoke about how black women need to stop focusing so much on these "brothers" and be a little more open- minded. After all.. black men are tending to be open- minded by dating outside of their race and black women are tending to hold on to the "good black man" syndrome.
However the facts stand, there are more educated black women then black men, and most black women desire a educated black man. But when we look at the ratio.. ladies it's just not enough of them for all of us.
Educated to me does not necessarily mean a FAMU or Harvard degree, but a man with passion, ambition, goals, and a desire to progress (all of this takes intelligence) NOT the goons who are in and out of jail with three and four baby mammas!
LET'S BE REAL! Do you think President Obama would have been received as well if Michelle was white? I'm willing to bet he would not!
I was at a seminar and an alarming statistic was brought up, 67% of black women will NEVER get married! Good, hard working, intelligent black women! So ladies, what do? Do we still hold on to this white picket dream? Or do we expand our boundaries?
I would prefer to hold on to that dream. I truly believe that God has the man for me aligned for me out there and he is Black ( I specially requested that from God...) But sometimes loneliness may get the best of us and a black man is not the only one who can remedy that family or be a good father and husband.
Yet and still... every Claire deserves a Cliff Huxtable... but maybe Claire needs to see what Mr. Rogers is talking about! LoL
